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Rhinoceros Success

I was inspired years ago, shortly after leaving the Marine Corps, to charge thru LIFE  like a Rhinocerus after reading a book called Rhinocerus Success...   Scott Alexander writes to live Life, like a Rhino and not like a cow. 

The RHINO charges thru life making things happen as opposed to the cow who waits for things to happen...

The Rhinocerus is considered the King of the Jungle, as with its 2 inch thick skin, there is not much that is going to hurt him, nor his feelings.

As we go thru this journey called life, we must develop thick skin, as life is full of disapointments, hurts, frustrations, and knockout punches.

 

The RHINO charges thru the jungle daily in pursuit of his purpose...

To LIVE FREE ....            I encourage you to lead a RHINO  L.I.F.E.

Rhinocerus success book

Keep CHARGING........

D

 

 

 

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Best Buys new strategy

In April, Best Buy, who has struggled financially in recent years, announced a new partnership with Samsung.

While Samsung has long had products scattered throughout Best Buy stores, they are paying Best Buy to put their products in the spotlight.

Samsung says that it will open 1,400 “mini-stores” inside of Best Buy stores by the end of June.

Called a “Samsung Experience Shop,” the mini-store will have an entire section devoted to Samsung products such as the smartphones, tablets, cameras, laptops, etc. and will include customer support for Samsung products similar to the “Genius Bar” at Apple stores.

1,400 mini-stores opening within just a couple of months. That is some massive action. And just the first step in Best Buy’s new “mini-store concept” which it plans to expand to more brands and products. The goal is to encourage more store visitors and a higher percentage of them to whip out their wallets and buy.

Moreover, it’s an attempt to move more traffic to their stores and away from online competition. The basic strategy is to dedicate more space to higher-margin products and eliminate things that don’t sell. As for Samsung, this was a quicker and relatively less expensive way to broaden their retail footprint and move towards providing their consumers what they want which is better customer service.

There are two important strategies at work here. One is the massive action they are taking. The second is something many miss—and that is to focus on the things that will produce the most value.

It’s not uncommon to see big companies roll out a huge, massive campaign like this.

But as an entrepreneur and small business owner, massive action surrounding focused efforts like this – often go undone, even though it’s these types of efforts that can create considerable growth and huge profit. Especially when, like Samsung and Best Buy, it’s focused on things that will increase your business and profits the most.

Virtually every business owner has at least one time when, for whatever reason, they are cash strapped and feel resourceless. And if not money strapped, they are “time strapped” and can’t figure out how to put more hours in the day to get everything done.

The fact is, there is always something you can do. Let me say that again. There is ALWAYS a way to get things done.

Of course, you don’t want to be foolish about spending your time or your resources…because let’s face it, unlike the big, dumb companies, you can’t afford to waste either.

So the first thing you need to do is figure out exactly what you want and where you want to go.

When I meet with Life Members privately, I discuss the “picture” of their business and life as they want it to be…a few years, five years, sometimes ten years into the future.

One of the things I learned from “Psycho-Cybernetics” is that the human mind needs the destination to navigate and move toward.  The clearer the destination, the better and faster the progress.

You CAN make a lot of headway at a rapid pace in life, but still not be moving toward a destination you want. I know. I’ve done that more than once. So the first thing to do to get your business moving in the right direction is to give careful, serious thought about where you want to go, what you want your business and life to be like.

Once you have that in place, get resourceful and put a plan in place to take massive action in a clear, focused effort on what will produce the highest possible results.

Best Buy’s new CEO Hubert Joly could have whined and complained and made a lot of excuses about the mess he inherited.  He could have continued to do business as usual and watched Best Buy continue down a losing path. But instead he was resourceful.  Looking at what Best Buy had and what it was lacking, he came up with an innovative and massive campaign  that could provide a huge win for not only Best Buy, but for its vendors and customers as well.

It is inexcusable to be without resourcefulness. This is about character, not cash, nor time.

There are millionaires, multi-millionaires and billionaires that started with nothing. And everyone has the same 24 hours in a day.

Are you going to continue down the same path you’ve been heading, watching others pull ahead while you fall further behind , wondering what happened?  Or are you going to figure out how to take advantage of opportunities and act on ideas quickly, so you can start experiencing the kind of big breakthroughs that will help create the kind of money that buys autonomy?

I am so impressed with Orrin Woodward and his ability to PDCA  (Plan - Do - Check - Adjust)

with the Life company, which like Best Buy has focused on thinking out of the box to provide

people with an extra ordinary experience.

 

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Why choose Life company to build leadership

Here is repost from Dan Hawkins

So why LIFE ? If leadership is truly that important it makes sense to say we all should be working on improving our leadership abilities. One problem for me, where do I start? Who will teach me? When I looked around me I did not see anyone getting the results in life I wanted. I had no examples to follow and had no idea where to start.

The LIFE Business is a systematic, self directed leadership education program to help people develop themselves.  We have LIFE LIVE seminars, subscriptions, LIFE Library and countless audios, videos and books to dive into your education. One of the keys to the success of people in the LIFE Business are the people, let me explain. At LIFE we focus on building a community of customers and members for each business owner. This gives you a live community to test what you are learning. The better you get in your leadership skills the more customers you develop and members you have following you. You also will  get to work directly with others who are farther down the road that can mentor and coach you based on what they have learned.

I love attending the LIFE Live seminars because we have people from all walks of life learning together. Some are just customers of this great information wanting to associate with like minded people, while others are focused on creating an income stream using the LIFE Business. The stories of customers using this information to get promoted, get a new job, save a marriage or get out of a finical crisses are growing daily. I can not make it one day without hearing of someone new getting a better life through better information.

Join the Leadershift happening at the LIFE Business

Lisa and I have decided to give our lives to helping others develop the leadership skills necessary to make a difference in their life. We have been so blessed by the LIFE Business we truly want to pay it forward and become a blessing to others. We have sold out to the cause of filling the leadership void our country is experiencing today.

A quick leadership lesson from the LIFE Business

Here are the three foundation qualities to becoming a leader from the best selling book, Launching A Leadership Revolution by Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady

1) Hungry: Hunger itself is one of the biggest facets of leadership. Take time to develop the hunger to grow and learn. How do we do that? Start by finding your dream or reason to do more and get better, this will drive the hunger to learn.

Humility is crucial to hunger. I like to say it is hard to be hungry when you are full of yourself! Aim for a station in life that is higher then where you are today and hunger will fill the gap, unless you think you already know it all! But then again to know and not to have is really not to know at all!

2)Hone-able: Hone: to sharpen or smooth with a whetstone or to make more acute, intense, or effective.

Hone-able follows hunger because you need to understand you don’t know what you don’t know. Chris Brady says: you can not take your same old self into a bright new future. Be willing to change to get where you want to go.

3)Honorable: Living a life of integrity and character is timeless, and for a leader, absolute necessary. The most effective leaders throughout history have led with their hearts, in trust and with honor.

I hope you take up the calling in your heart to start leading in LIFE! We welcome you to the LIFE Business!

 

 

Keep Charging 

D

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The Parable of the Talents

The Parable of the Talents is the primary reason for wealth or poverty throughout history. Do you ever ask yourself why some people retire rich and most people retire poor? Like you, this subject has fascinated philosophers, thinkers, mystics and teachers throughout the ages.

There have been so many cases of hundreds or thousands and even millions of men and women who have started with nothing and become financially independent that people are naturally curious to know why it happened and what are the common rules or principles that others can apply to become wealthy as well.

Why People Become Rich

One illustration of this key principle is called the parable of the talents. In the Bible, it says, "To him that hath, shall more be given, and he shall have abundance. But from him that hath not, even that which he hath shall be taken away."

Accumulation Leads to More Accumulation

What does it mean? In the modern world, we say "the rich get richer and the poor get poorer." The fact is that people who accumulate money tend to accumulate more and more. People who don't accumulate money seem to lose even that little bit of money which they have.

Why should this happen? The great success principle, the single idea that explains human destiny is simple. It says that, "you become what you think about, most of the time."

Control Your Thoughts

And whatever you dwell upon, grows in your reality. You create your entire world by the things you choose to think about and how you choose to think about them.

It just so happens that wealthy, successful people fill their minds with thoughts, words, pictures and images of wealth, affluence, success, productivity and solutions to problems in the marketplace, most of the time. These thoughts trigger the reticular activating cortex, the part of the brain that makes you more alert and sensitive to things that you have decided are important to you.

Activate Your Reticular Cortex

For example, if you decide to invest in a mutual fund, you will start to see news and information about mutual funds everywhere. Mentions in newspapers and magazines will jump out at you. These notices have always been there but now you have sensitized your brain to pick them up and draw them to your attention with far greater frequency and vividness. This is the function and power of your reticular cortex.

Avoid Poverty Thinking

On the other hand, what do poor people think about most of the time? Unfortunately, poor people fill their minds with thoughts of scarcity, lack, poverty, being unable to afford things. They are always thinking and talking about how little money they have, how much things cost and how they wish things could be better financially. What they think about most of the time is how little money they have.

Think Like Wealthy People Think

Wealthy people from an early age think about how much they have, how much they want and all the different things they can do to acquire and earn the money and things they desire.

Find Out How Rich People Think

Here's a rule for you. If you want to become successful, find out what failures do and don't do it. If you want to be wealthy, find out what poor people think about, and avoid thinking in those ways. Instead, find out how wealthy people think. Find out what they read. Find out how they spend their time. Study their lives, read their stories and autobiographies and listen to their words when they are interviewed and on tape. The more you find out what financially successful people think and talk about most of the time, and do the same things, the more rapidly you will enjoy the same rewards that they do.

Action Exercises

Here are two things you can do to put this parable of the talents into action:

First, make a decision today that from now on you will think and talk only about the financial success that you desire. At the same time, you will refuse to talk about or dwell upon your financial problems.

Second, instead of saying, "I can't afford it," instead ask the question, "How can I afford it?" When you think of something that you want or need that you don't have the money for at the time, the only question you ask is, "How?" How can you get it? What can you do to achieve it? What are your options? How can you get from where you are to where you want to go? This type of attitude will change your life.

The Life business is exciting in that through association, reading & listening, people that have never been trained or conditioned to think like this can learn to do so.

As Mike Murdock says, we dont have a money problem in America today...We have a wisdom problem...

Keep Charging

 

D

 

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Revolutionize YOUR LIFE- with LIFE.....

Revolutionize Your Life!


Everyone will be called upon to lead at some point (and truly several points) in their lives, the only question is: Will they be ready?

The LIFE business launched with the purpose of providing world-class leadership materials to business executives, entrepreneurs, corporate climbers, pastors, church leaders, administrators, community service leaders, public servants, teachers, parents, and anybody who will find themselves in a position to lead.  When it gets right down to it, leadership is for everyone. Nobody will be able to make their way through life without needing to draw upon the toolbox of leadership.  Sadly, many people lack these tools and therefore get to live with the consequences of being ill-equipped. These consequences include missed opportunities, unfulfilled career aspirations, financial woes, and broken relationships.

Although leadership is for everyone, not everyone will equip themselves. Therefore, it may be helpful to consider a list of people for which the LIFE materials don't apply.  LIFE leadership training materials are NOT for those who:

LIFE Founders
  1. Refuse to take 100% personal responsibility for their results in life.
  2. Would rather fix blame than fix problems.
  3. Want an easy, comfortable life without having to earn it.
  4. Already know everything and are therefore unteachable.
  5. Have character issues they refuse to address.

LIFE is for those who earnestly seek a better life, are interested in the strenuous process of personal growth, are driven to succeed in significant ways, and are committed to a life of excellence for a higher purpose.

Our Point of View: You can live the life you've always wanted. We believe it requires correct information, applied with discipline, consistency, and purpose, over time, and with the support and encouragement of a community of people aligned in common purpose.

Our Purpose: LIFE seeks to provide the information, encouragement, opportunity, and community necessary to individuals who are hungry to live a life that counts!

We don't know what we don't know, we've forgotten some of what we did know, but we know what we didn't used to know, and we'll help you learn it too!

Mediocrity is for the many.

Leadership is for the few.

 

Keep Charging

D


Everyone will be called upon to lead - few will be ready.

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You dont have to answer it...

You don't have to answer it

Telephone

How often do you call someone on the phone whether on their landline or more often their mobile and having answered it, they then say they can't talk ... they're busy ... with someone ... in the middle of something?

I hear it quite often.

If that's the case, you don't have to answer the phone - especially if you're in a meeting or with someone.

Good meeting etiquette and showing respect to the person/people you're with is that you prioritise them over anything else - especially interruptions from a phone call.

Is the interruption more important that the person you're with or the task you're working on?  If it is - fine, go ahead and answer it but let them know.  If not, let it go through to voicemail and call them back when it's more convenient and you're free to talk.

If you're expecting an urgent call - say so.  Otherwise, remember to switch your phone off or put it on silent when you're with someone.
Keep Charging...
D

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Success is Harder than most people anticipate...

Here is a great artical from my good friend Chris Brady:

Success is Hard

Many Misunderstand Success

The most formidable obstacle in anyone's path when deciding to enter the business world will likely be their own thinking.

This was certainly true of me.

I used to think that all I needed were the specifics of an endeavor and a little time and I could be a success. What I discovered along the way was that the specifics are easy and simple to acquire, and almost (I say almost, meaning comparatively) irrelevant. What I needed the most, and what I see as a similar need in many people with whom I work, is a "business mindset." And actually, beneath that mindset is another important manner of thinking, namely, a "success mindset."

Success is Difficult

Here is what I didn't really understand: In anything worthwhile, success is hard.

Let's consider business in general and the costs to even get started. According to buildyourfirm.com, the average startup cost for an accounting office is $50,000 for a book of $150k of business. According to fastfood.com, to start an Arby's franchise requires a $37,500 initial fee, a liquid capital requirement of $500,000, and a total estimated initial investment of $2.3 million. This is followed by the requirement of paying a 4% royalty. A Cinnabon requires $30,000 up front, $100,000 liquid capital requirement, a minimum net worth of $300,000, and an overall estimated initial investment of $362,000. The royalty payment required is 6%. One more. Subway requires a $15,000 initial fee, $90,000 of initial liquid capital, a minimum net worth of $500,000, and an estimated initial investment of $238,000. The royalty payment owed is an ongoing 8%. So with just this small sample size considered, it is obvious that the cost of starting a business is high. (Keep in mind that the average North American has just $3,800 in regular savings and cash).

So what about the odds of business success? According to a report by creditdonkey.com, 50% of new businesses are out of business by year five, and only 35% are left in year ten, with many never making any money at all.

What about sports?

According to Business Insider, the odds of success in professional sports is even worse than the odds of making it in business. Consider that in baseball, for instance, just 0.6% (that's 6 out of 1,000 boys) of high school players and just 11.6% of college players even make it into the pros, while the average professional baseball career is just 5.6 years long. It's 0.08% (that's 8 out of 10,000 boys!) of high school players, and just 1.7% of college players that make it to the pros, where a professional career lasts an average of 3.5 years. In hockey it's 0.1% of high school players and 1.3% of college players that make it to the pros, where an average career lasts 5.5 years. For basketball it's 0.03% (3 out of 10,000) of high school players and 1.2% of college players that make it to the pros, where a career lasts just an average of 4.8 years.

Ok, so business is expensive and hard, and sports have super long odds, but what about other areas of success?

Let's say, for instance, marriage?

According to marriage and divorce expert Marty Friedman, in 1970, 72% of people were married, whereas only 59% are today. The average divorce occurs at the 7 year mark, and 50% of first marriages, and 60 to 70% of second marriages end in divorce. Fatherless households account for 63% of youth suicides, 90% of homeless/runaways, 85% of behavioral problems, 71% of high school dropouts, 85% of youths in prison, and over 50% of unwanted teen pregnancies.

Okay, so matrimonial relationships are fraught with challenges and horrific ramifications, what about a totally different category, say, acting?

The best sources I could find seem to agree that only about 2% of those consistently active "in the field" make it as a full time occupation.

Well, what about authors? How many become best selling authors?

According to one of my publicists, there are approximately 1,000,000 books published per year.  Only about 200 go over 100,000 in sales per year, which is 0,02% (or 2 authors out of every 10,000).

What about goal setting in general? Let's get away from specific industries and endeavors and just talk general success.

According to researcher Douglas Vermeeren, 80% of people never set goals at all! Of the roughly 20% who do, approximately 70% fail to hit those goals!

Have I made my point? Success anywhere is hard! All these statistics certainly bring a little light to Sturgeon's Law, which states that "90% of everything is crap." Or the old Pareto Principle which states that for any given output, "roughtly 80% of the output is due to just 20% of the causes." 

It begins to be obvious that in any endeavor only a small percentage of the population actually "make it." Does this mean that business, professional athletics, marriage, acting, writing, and goal setting in general are "scams?" Certainly not, it simply means that excellence and high achievement adhere to the cold, cruel laws of success, even if most people are unfamiliar with them. 

Let me reiterate: to reach the level of mastery and high accomplishment in any area will be difficult, fraught with peril, and painful. So much so that it will eliminate most of your competition along the way. The laws of success and competition are brutal, and apparently most people are not familiar with them.

This is what I was missing when I started out in business, when I started writing books, and when I started doing public speaking. The good ones made it look so easy I just assumed that with a little practice I could do what they were doing just as well - and I was in for a rude awakening. This is what I find when working with most people; that they just have no concept of what success really takes, or how slim the odds of high achievement really are.

Why?

Because most of us are raised in a soft cocoon of protection, in which we are given trophies for participation, and told we are great even when we are not. Many careers and occupations shelter people from the cold realities of competition, paying them a salary regardless of output and forcing them to confront their performance only in little ways and perhaps as seldom as once per year in a soft-ball performance review.

Let's face it, there are very few places in our adult lives where we are really forced to confront a totally honest scoreboard of our performance. And when we do, many of us shy away from it with cries of "it's not fair" and "you cheated" on our lips to hide the painful reality that we don't really measure up. We are more comfortable in our "illusory superiority" than we are confronting the brutal reality of our lackluster abilities.

This is why I chose to highlight businesses, sports, marriage, acting, and writing in my statistical review: because each of these activities requires participants to truly exceed in order tosucceed. There are no shortcuts to success in any of them, and they each expose participants' true abilities.

Success is Worth It

But success is worth it, right?

It depends upon what you define success to be. I would recommend reading the following articles for assistance in determining your own unique definition (Success: An Important Definition, Competing Views of Success, Customized Success - It's Your Life, The Top 10 Realities of Success). But yes, in my opinion, success is worth it, as much for what it makes out of us during the journey towards it as for any amount of reward for achieving it. There is just something exhilarating about opening yourself up to the scoreboard of life and daring to have a look at how you stack up.

What are the odds (in any endeavor) of you becoming one of the top performers? Long indeed.

What are the odds of the pursuit itself making you into a better person in the process? Almost assured.

So dare to pursue something amazing, and worry not about the people around you who seek guarantees and the quiet false comfort of an existence hidden away from the scoreboard.

They just don't "get it," but you just might!

Thanks for reading!

Sincerely,

Chris Brady

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Keep Charging,

D 

 

 

 

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Rich Dad Higher Education scam

This is post from Robert Kiyosaki.

Rich Dad Scam #1: Higher Education

Posted on: Friday, January 25, 2013|Written by: Robert Kiyosaki

There are all sorts of scam artists in the world. Most of the time we can spot them, like those emails that promise us millions if we’ll just give away our bank account numbers. Sometimes we don’t spot them until it’s too late or they make a mistake, like with Bernie Madoff. And sometimes we don’t know we’re being scammed at all because we’re conditioned to think from the cradle that something is the best and right advice for living.

Over the next few posts, I’m going to explore the scams that most people never know about in a series I call Rich Dad Scams. The first one we’ll explore is higher education.

The “school = success” scam

When I was young, my poor dad always told me the best path to success was to go to school. He felt that was the best way to get a good job. The problem was that my poor dad was one of the most educated people I knew, but he was always complaining about money and how unhappy he was with his work.

My rich dad, on the other hand, didn’t have a college degree. Yet he was very rich and successful. Rich dad said, “School teaches you to be an employee. If you want to be rich, don’t count on school.”

So, from a very young age, I learned that the promise of higher education for success was one of the biggest scams around. That’s why the first Rich Dad Scam identified is higher education.

Going to school doesn’t make you financially smart

Because I’m outspoken against the school system, I’m often accused of being anti-education. Nothing could be further from the truth. But “go to college” is one of those things people point at as a way of being successful without ever stopping to think if it’s true.

The Rich Dad Scam that school will make you a success is perpetrated everywhere and all the time. What will make you successful is not going to school but rather financial education—learning how money works and how to make it work for you—is what will make you successful, and, unfortunately, you can’t get that in school.

When it comes to money, going to school won’t make you smart.

Understanding value

This doesn’t mean that education isn’t important. The basic education you get in your K-12 years is important to everything that comes after. And if you want to be a teacher, a lawyer, or a doctor, then obviously you’re going to need to go to college.

But what you won’t learn in school is how money works. Education, particularly in America, doesn’t teach students how to live or be self-sufficient. Instead, it teaches us to be employees instead of our own bosses. It makes us workers instead of innovators. That’s a big reason why we call school a Rich Dad Scam. In fact, the rich use school to keep poor people poor.

Different types of intelligence

One of the worst things about school is that it recognizes only one type of intelligence—book smarts. If you aren’t book smart, you are very quickly labeled smart or stupid. As a child, I was not book smart, and I was labeled stupid. But I wasn’t stupid. I was just interested in different things. And I was bored. For instance, no one could tell me when I’d ever use calculus in my real life! Yet, I was told to comply and learn. I was being trained to be an employee.

My rich dad wasn’t book smart either. Yet, he was very smart. He had street smarts, which he used to become very rich. School doesn’t teach you to be street smart. I had to learn that from my rich dad. My poor dad thought school was incredibly important, and he was very book smart. But what did it get him? He struggled financially most of his life.

That’s another reason why we label higher education a Rich Dad Scam. The so-called experts tell you that you need it. They tell you it’s important. But it doesn’t actually do anything for you except make you a good employee.

“But I studied money in college!”

Tom Wheelwright, my Rich Dad Advisor on taxes, went to school to be an accountant and got straight A’s. He will also gladly tell you that he got no practical financial education. He learned what was needed to do a job but not how to successfully manage his own finances. And he went to school to learn about money!

People often say they learned about money in school. You may learn how to balance a checkbook in school, but you won’t learn how money really works. That’s not an accident; it’s a scam.

The rich use school to train us to be good employees. We start out being told what to do, and are rewarded for compliance. It’s very easy to transition from a school to a company where you’re told what to do. And that leads us to trust and hand things off to the government and the rich bankers who handle our 401(k). The rich use education to make themselves richer and keep you poor, and when you realize that, it’s not hard to see why it’s one of our Rich Dad Scams.

Think for yourself

The people who fall for scams are typically those who are conditioned not to think for themselves. Unfortunately, Rich Dad Scam #1, Higher Education, robs us of the independence to think for ourselves, to think like an entrepreneur, an innovator, and an investor. It instead teaches us to be dependent.

You need to learn to speak the language of money to be successful. That takes financial education, which opens up a whole new world, a world where you can succeed on your own terms. Unfortunately, our schools don’t teach that language. They teach you the basics, and then they either teach you a specific trade or skill, or they simply train you to be an employee.

Today, it’s time to start thinking for yourself. Don’t fall for this the scam of higher education. Instead, start your financial education today, and begin your journey to financial freedom.

 

The Life business believes in financial education. I would highly recommend several audios by Chris Brady or Orrin Woodward on financial eduacation.

 

Keep Charging

D

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3 stages to MASTERY

Success Immersion

This is some of Chris Brady's best teaching to date. Chris shared the three stages of life on the way to mastery. The LIFE Businesscan help direct a person through the steps to mastery. Orrin Woodward says, "When the going gets tough, the tough get going" and this process is tough, but worth it. Enjoy.

IMG_2966There are three stages in life on the road to mastery of any craft:

1. Ignorance - this is the brief but enjoyable stage where the task at hand appears interesting and enjoyable. Without the confusion of knowledge, accidental competency sometimes occurs and practitioners are often able to make some early headway quite easily. At this early stage it is easy to take things too lightly, underestimate the top performers in the category, and even get a little cocky. 

2. Immersion - this stage is the key. Without long-term immersion in a topic, mastery will never be realized. This takes intensity, focus, commitment, and time. The challenge here is that as one plunges into the the craft, all sorts of details and complexity reveal themselves. Things begin to seem overwhelming and difficult. What at first appeared fun and easy soon begins to feel impossible and perhaps "not worth it." There is a clear choice in the Immersion stage: feel the pressure or marvel at the wonder. It is possible to do both productively, but never just the first. A healthy sense of wonder at all that is involved is required for ongoing enthusiasm and commitment.

3. Intelligence - this is where the practitioner has mastered his craft and makes it look "easy" to the outside world. Outsiders look at those with such master and say they have a certain "intelligence" in the topic, as in, "Peyton Manning has incredible football intelligence." Competence is now second nature and almost unconcious, although the job of the master to continually improve never ends.

We can consider the above steps from the standpoint of martial arts. Upon first look, it may seem that throwing a punch is nothing more than that - simply throwing a punch. However, once immersion in martial arts begins, the student realizes that there are complex and specific mechanics involved in properly throwing a punch, such as body position, center of gravity, core involvement, opposing hand pull-back, torso twist, formation of the fist, pointing of lead knuckles, and much more. It is in this stage that one realizes that "a punch is MORE than just a punch." After thousands and thousands of practice punches in a whole host of different environments and applications, honed to sharpness by the oversight of a master sensei over a long period of time, eventually a punch returns to being "just a punch," meaning, it becomes second nature and almost automatic. However, now it is extremely effective and correctly done.

The challenge along the path of mastery is the pressure that results in the Immersion stage. Most people cannot handle this pressure. Instead they:

1. become overwhelmed, determine that the task is too hard, and quit. Or,

2. they cave in to the pressure but don't quit, but also don't bring the concentration and effort required to pass through Immersion on to mastery. Instead, they wallow around in Immersion indefinitely, going through the motions half-heartily, and never really improving. Or, 

3. they blame the craft or the process . This often turns people into "suggestion machines," as in, "This craft would be so much better if they would just make such and such changes . . . ." Unwittingly the productive pressure of the Immersion stage is bled off and applied elsewhere. Relieving this pressure by directing it elsewhere robs the participant of the lessons the pressure brings and prolongs the time required to reach mastery. Or,

4. they blame other people for their lack of progress. This is even worse than becoming a suggestion machine because now it also involves playing the part of a victim. This is a total relief of the productive pressure and is the surest way to become entrapped in the Immersion stage long term, or to take the short trip back to #1 above and quit outright.

Once one has traveled down the road to mastery in a subject, quitting is particularly tragic because it effectively and mercilessly starts the clock over. Quitters often enjoy immediate relief from the pressure of immersion, and even brag about it to their associates. But masters know that this temporary respite from pressure is simply the pause in the time line until the person must choose the next endeavor and begin the process all over again. Sadly, the cycle usually just repeats itself as the person gets frustrated at the next new thing and quits again. It is precisely in this fashion, blaming processes and people all along the way, that many would-be achievers accomplish very little with their lives and never actually master anything. Time ticks without remorse as the self-deceived entrap themselves in unnecessary mediocrity.

In this progression it can also be seen why time spread too thin across too many activities is a killer for anyone truly seeking mastery. There simply isn't enough time to become a master at more than one or two things in life. I dislike the well-intentioned phrase, "It's never too late," precisely because, well, there IS a too late! Time doesn't wait forever. Health doesn't last forever. Windows of opportunity don't remain open forever. Relationships will not wait forever. Time lost is time lost. Period. Mastery is only available if given enough time, and delaying Immersion or spreading oneself too thin both deprive one of the time required for mastery.

Also, one can easily see that attempting to compete part-time with someone who has dedicated himself full-time to a profession is likely an exercise in futility. Sooner or later the person or enterprise with the most focus, the most commitment, the most "skin in the game" will win. NY TImes best selling author Orrin Woodward says, "Half of you against all of them means you loseall!" 

Decide to master your craft. Fall in love with the wonder of the depth of what you do. Become excited by each new discovery and layer you remove of greater dimensions and understanding. Let this fuel your intensity and magnify your focus. Throw your whole self in to the endeavor and be a patient student of the process. Use the challenge of the pressure wisely and allow it to mold you, long term, into a legitimate master, one with that special "intelligence" in your field. And don't worry that most people will not understand you. That's okay. In fact, it should be seen as a positive indicator that you are headed in the correct direction away from the herd. Simply look to other masters for approval. They were once where you are, and will be the first to cheer you on.

Keep Charging....

D

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BE CLEAR

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One of the most significant truths that I have ever learned in life is the importance of being clear. What I find most often is that people think they are clear when they really are not clear at all and this lack of clarity can create barriers in relationships and business endeavors. There is nothing more difficult than trying to help someone see something that they cannot see. I learned early to recognize the fact that I may not be clear, even if I thinkI am being clear. Therefore, here are a couple of suggestions I have learned to use to help me along the way.
 

Whenever I am in a group meeting and someone says something that I do not understand, I say to another person, "I am so sorry, and it is my fault, but I am not 100% sure I understood what they just said. Could you please explain it to me in your own words to help me better understand?" That gives another person the opportunity to re-phrase what the first person said. Then I ask the first person if that was what they were trying to say so that they can have the opportunity to bring more clarity to what was originally communicated. I am not trying to "trap" anyone - I am trying to avoid confusion for the entire team. It always brings clarity!
 

You may think this is going overboard, but the question begs to be answered, "If you do not have enough time to do things right the first time, how will you have time to do them all over again the second time?"
 

Not too long ago I saw a woman with four children in a restaurant. The children were playing with each other and she told them to go sit in the booth while she got their food.They continued to play so she said in a louder voice, "I said, go sit in the booth!" They appeared to ignore her and I could tell she was losing her patience. Finally, she said "GO SIT IN THE BOOTH!!" One of the little boys then asked, "What's a booth?"
 

Who would have guessed that the reason they did not cooperate was because they did not understand her instructions? At that moment I think it would have been very difficult to convince that woman that she was the problem rather than the children. See how tricky this issue of clarity becomes?
 

Do you know what an anatomical juxtaposition of two orbicularis oris muscles in a state of contraction is all about? Actually, that is the definition of a kiss! If someone asked to kiss you using those words, would you even know what they were talking about? We know what a kiss is, but very few people could understand what those confusing words mean! Using words that other people understand therefore becomes critical to clarity.
 

I don't think we mean to be confusing...I just don't think that we stop to realize that what we think we communicated was not actually communicated at all. That's why there is great value in asking other people to explain what they heard so that we can be clear in our understanding.
 
Leadership experts Chris Brady and Orrin Woodward are excellent at creating clarity in their presentations
and meetings.

Keep Charging...
D

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Thomas Jefferson

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Thomas Jefferson was a very remarkable man who started learning very early in life and never stopped.

At 5, began studying under his cousin's tutor.

At 9, studied Latin, Greek and French.

At 14, studied classical literature and additional languages.

At 16, entered the College of William and Mary.

At 19, studied Law for 5 years starting under George Wythe.

At 23, started his own law practice.

At 25, was elected to the Virginia House of Burgesses.

At 31, wrote the widely circulated "Summary View of the Rights of British Americaâ and retired from his law practice.

At 32, was a Delegate to the Second Continental Congress.

At 33, wrote the Declaration of Independence.

At 33, took three years to revise Virginia's legal code and wrote a Public Education bill and a statute for Religious Freedom.

At 36, was elected the second Governor of Virginia succeeding Patrick Henry.

At 40, served in Congress for two years.

At 41, was the American minister to France and negotiated commercial treaties with European nations along with Ben Franklin and John Adams.

At 46, served as the first Secretary of State under George Washington.

At 53, served as Vice President and was elected president of the American Philosophical Society.

At 55, drafted the Kentucky Resolutions and became the active head of Republican Party.

At 57, was elected the third president of the United States.

At 60, obtained the Louisiana Purchase doubling the nation's size.

At 61, was elected to a second term as President.

At 65, retired to Monticello.

At 80, helped President Monroe shape the Monroe Doctrine.

At 81, almost single-handedly created the University of Virginia and served as its first president.

At 83, died on the 50th anniversary of the Signing of the Declaration of Independence along with John Adams.

Thomas Jefferson knew because he himself studied the previous failed attempts at government. He understood actual history, the nature of God, his laws and the nature of man. That happens to be way more than what most understand today. Jefferson really knew his stuff. A voice from the past to lead us in the future:

John F. Kennedy held a dinner in the white House for a group of the brightest minds in the nation at that time. He made this statement: "This is perhaps the assembly of the most intelligence ever to 
gather at one time in the White House with the exception of when Thomas Jefferson dined alone."


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"When we get piled upon one another in large cities, as in Europe, we shall become as corrupt as Europe."
-- Thomas Jefferson


"The democracy will cease to exist when you take away from those who are willing to work and give to those who would not."
-- Thomas Jefferson


"It is incumbent on every generation to pay its own debts as it goes. A principle which if acted on would save one-half the wars of the world."
-- Thomas Jefferson


"I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them."

-- Thomas Jefferson

"My reading of history convinces me that most bad government results from too much government."

-- Thomas Jefferson

"No free man shall ever be debarred the use of arms."

--Thomas Jefferson

"The strongest reason for the people to retain the right to keep and bear arms is, as a last resort, to protect themselves against tyranny in government."
-- Thomas Jefferson


"The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots and tyrants."

-- Thomas Jefferson

"To compel a man to subsidize with his taxes the propagation of ideas which he disbelieves and abhors is sinful and

tyrannical."
-- Thomas Jefferson


Thomas Jefferson said in 1802:

"I believe that banking institutions are more dangerous to our liberties than standing armies.
If the American people ever allow private banks to control the issue of their currency, first by inflation, then by deflation, the banks and corporations that will grow up around the banks will deprive the people of all property - until their children wake-up homeless on the continent their fathers conquered."

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LeaderShift

This is a repost from best selling auther Orrin Woodwards blog and his new book LeaderShift to be out in April.

Keep Charging 

D

  Leadershift

Earlier today, while writing on my corporate HR Toolbox blog, I read an extended quote from Gustav Cassel. His thoughts on the drift towards totalitarianism that every country experiences with the initiation of economic controls aligned perfectly with the Five Laws of Decline (FLD), which I first disclosed in my book RESOLVED: 13 Resolutions for LIFE. Indeed, every single human society has ultimately failed due to the unchecked effects of the FLD. The question of the century is: Will America follow in their footsteps by not addressing the debilitating effects of the FLD at work?  LeaderShift, soon to be released by Hachette’s Business Plus division, is a business fable co-written with Oliver DeMille that teaches how to check the Five Laws of Decline by limiting government power and centralization. Any concerned citizen ought to study and learn how to check the FLD since they have been responsible for the decline in all human civilizations. This is what the LIFE business is: a community of concerned citizens. Here are several dictums of government fromLeaderShift followed by Cassel’s extended quote.

Sincerely,

Orrin Woodward

1. Government power must be checked by other powers, i.e., federal powers are checked by states, which are checked by localities.

2. Government taxation must be limited, or limited government is illusory.

3. Local leadership should solve local issues since local leaders are “boots on the ground” and have the most knowledge of the challenges and potential solutions.

4. Political leaders must learn how to balance budgets, or they are not leaders at all.

The most powerful brief statement of this interaction with which I am acquainted occurs in a lecture delivered by the eminent Swedish economist, the late Gustav Cassel. This was published in a pamphlet with the descriptive but rather cumbersome title: From Protectionism Through Planned Economy to Dictatorship.[1] I take the liberty of quoting an extensive passage from it:

The leadership of the state in economic affairs which advocates of Planned Economy want to establish is, as we have seen, necessarily connected with a bewildering mass of governmental interferences of a steadily cumulative nature. The arbitrariness, the mistakes and the inevitable contradictions of such policy will, as daily experience shows, only strengthen the demand for a more rational coordination of the different measures and, therefore, for unified leadership. For this reason Planned Economy will always tend to develop into Dictatorship.…

The existence of some sort of parliament is no guarantee against planned economy being developed into dictatorship. On the contrary, experience has shown that representative bodies are unable to fulfill all the multitudinous functions connected with economic leadership without becoming more and more involved in the struggle between competing interests, with the consequence of a moral decay ending in party — if not individual — corruption. Examples of such a degrading development are indeed in many countries accumulating at such a speed as must fill every honorable citizen with the gravest apprehensions as to the future of the representative system. But apart from that, this system cannot possibly be preserved, if parliaments are constantly over-worked by having to consider an infinite mass of the most intricate questions relating to private economy. The parliamentary system can be saved only by wise and deliberate restriction of the functions of parliaments.…

Economic dictatorship is much more dangerous than people believe. Once authoritative control has been established it will not always be possible to limit it to the economic domain. If we allow economic freedom and self-reliance to be destroyed, the powers standing for Liberty will have lost so much in strength that they will not be able to offer any effective resistance against a progressive extension of such destruction to constitutional and public life generally. And if this resistance is gradually given up—perhaps without people ever realizing what is actually going on—such fundamental values as personal liberty, freedom of thought and speech and independence of science are exposed to imminent danger. What stands to be lost is nothing less than the whole of that civilization that we have inherited from generations which once fought hard to lay its foundations and even gave their life for it.

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67 Reasons -WHY SML

                                                67 Reasons why SML

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A friend of mine recently asked why my wife and I chose Smith Mountain Lake (SML) for a vacation home and what made it special.

This was a great question ….

  We have been there almost 5 years now and love it so much we plan on living there full time in the near future.

In the mean time we share it with others on a weekly rental program and make it available for use when we are not using it ourselves.  www.smithpointe-sml.com

When we first met, my wife Donna & I talked about dreams and goals that we each had, and one in common was to own a home on the water. There is something romantic, peaceful and serene about being on the water and being that I was brought up around boats all my life, I thought this would be really cool.

After we got married we started doing research and went on a quest to identify where on the east coast would be the perfect location to own a home. For the next 8 years we decided to rent waterfront homes on the east coast to see where we liked and didn’t like. We stayed at beach front properties in NJ, Md, Va, Nc, Sc &  Florida and decided that the beach was nice however we preferred somewhere we could keep a boat.

We stayed at places on the Chesapeake bay such as Charlestown, Baltimore, Annapolis, and St Michaels. We found the Bay a great body of water, however Donna wasn’t crazy about brown water….

We decided that a clean fresh water lake may be the better choice so we visited and stayed in the Thousand Islands and Lake George in NY.  We went to Lake Raystown, Lake Wallenpaupak and the  Susquehanna & Delaware river in Pa.

 Deep Creek Lake in MD.

Lake Gaston, Lake Anna, and SML in Va,

Lake Norman, Lake Wiley,  Kerr Lake , High Rock Lake & lake Lure in NC.  

Lake Murray, Lake Wateree, Lake Marion, Lake Moultry and  Lake Keowee in SC

In Tennesee we stayed at Lake Louden and Lake Norris.

It was a lot of fun visiting all thes lakes and have great memories from a lot of these places.

Every location we visited had something to offer, however after visiting at all these bodies of water, we kept coming back to Smith Mountain Lake Va  as our favorite. Maybe because our name is Smith….:)  We did actually come close to making a purchase on several other lakes, however we were very glad we had not.

After thinking about this question, I came up with 67 reasons why we chose or love Smith Mountain Lake, in which the Dupont Registy magazine says is the Best Kept Secret on the East coast.

Many claim it as " The Jewel of the Blue Ridge Mountains".

Here they are in no particular order:

 

 

  1. Majestic Smith Mountain w/ amazing views of a full spectrum color in Autumn.
  2. 15 water front restaurants to take the boat to including:  Italian, Chinese, Japanese sushi,  Mexican, and American.  From fine dining to tiki bar over water.
  3. 500 + miles of shoreline that takes 3 days by boat to see the whole lake.
  4. Some of the best motorcycle riding on the east coast.
  5. Booker T Washington birth place National historic registry.
  6. Over 50 house boat rentals as well as wave runners, pontoons and ski boats for rent to explore the hundreds of quit coves.
  7. NO mosquito’s… !  But Bald Eagles do reside there.
  8. Home of ESPNs annual "Blue Ridge Brawl" bass tournament.
  9. Several water front, award winning championship golf courses.

10.  Smith Mountain Lake airport w/ 3000+ runway

11. Annual world class fire works display over lake.

12.  The famous SML Ice Cream Boat

13. SML Yacht Club

14.  2 Hollywood films produced there. 1. "What about Bob…"   2. "Lake Effects"

15. Blue Ridge Parkway with the PEAKS of OTTER in view from lake.

16. Annual antique and muscle car show at Parkway marina.

17. Tom Jefferson’s Poplar Forest- His vacation home.

18. Relaxed slow pace of life.

19. NO  Alligator’s….!

20. 50’s style drive in movie theater & diner. (Happy Days)

21. Downtown Mayberry. (right out of Andy Griffiths show)

22. 60 foot + motor yachts and speed boats with no speed or size limits.

23. Pizza delivery

24. Parasailing

25. Hundreds of gorgeous homes lining the shore line that have been featured in Unique Homes magazine and the DuPont Registry.

26. Next to NO crime.

27. Annual Antique & Wooden boat show at Mariners Landing.

28. D-DAY Memorial- Historic National site.

29. Superb Duck & Deer Hunting.

30. Float Planes and Helicopters on lake.

31. LAKER magazine.

32. Good local churches and schools.

33. Liberty Christian University nearby.

34. Live entertainment by boat.

35. Several waterfront RV parks for friends & relatives.

36. Smith Mtn Lake State Park.

37. Several large sandy beaches with lifeguards.

38. Waterfront kids arcade & mini golf..

39. Several in home massage therapists available as well as local spas.

40. Modern medical facility’s with LIFE flight helicopters.

41. NO Jelly fish…..!

42. Appomattox courthouse.  (where General Lee surrendered to General Grant)

43. Liberty SKI FLEX –Year round snow skiing.

44. 20 + marinas.

45. Annual SML Wine festival as well as several local wineries.

46. SEATOW (in case your boat breaks down or run out of fuel)

47. Awesome Stripper fishing with numerous guide services.

48. Virginia DARE Riverboat seating 150 people for parties & sightseeing.

49. Annual speedboat poker runs for charity.

50. Annual Charity Homes tour.

51. Patrick Henry mansion.

52. Annual Wakeboard tournaments.

53. Deep Water with very few shoal spots to ruin your prop.

54. Lots of local stores & shops with annual local Business Expo.

55. Poised for great future growth and active Chamber of Commerce.

56. Great retirement alternative to Florida for baby boomers.

57. Natural Bridge- Used to be one of 7 natural wonders of the world.

58. Water front Mtg Room rentals & banquet facilities.

59. Annual SML Christmas lighted boat show display.

60.  Historic SML dam.

61. Several waterfront hotels for guests. ( mother in laws)

62. Sailing club.

63. Lynchburg & Roanoke commercial airport close by.

64. Local horse back riding & hiking trails.

65.  No traffic.

66. Low property taxes.

67. Home of the famous lake monster “SMITTIE”  ( must watch Lake Effect movie)

 

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The truth be known.....

Here is an artical from Dan Hawkins about Orrin Woodward and his past with Amway corp.

Clears up some questions that some may have.....

Orrin Woodward: Amway/Quixtar Whistleblower

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May 15, 2012

What is the truth about Orrin Woodward and his past relationship with Amway/Quixtar? Is Orrin a hero or just another person out for personal success at the expense of others?

To myself and the other founders of LIFE this is old news, but since the “Amway Drones” want to keep talking, lets share the whole story and clear up some untruths.

I wanted to cover four main points in this article:

1) In 2005 Orrin Woodward risked his hard-earned position at Amway by writing a letter directly to billionaire owner Doug DeVos to point out major problems within the Amway/Quixtar business model.

2) Orrin Woodward, after nearly three years attempting to drive change within the company, departs from Quixtar in disgust. Orrin and his leaders spend tens of millions of dollars to get free from Amway’s tentacles.

3) Earlier this year, in a California court, Amway/Quixtar settles a potential billion dollar lawsuit by surrendering over 100 million dollars in settlement money. Not surprisingly, many of the disputed issues in this case were the same ones that Orrin pointed out to Doug DeVos back in 2005.

UPDATE: Recently, in both a state and federal court, the same issues where challenged once again. The Amway vs bHip Global lawsuit was settled with a jury ruling unanimously in favor of bHip. 

4) Undaunted, Orrin instead of criticizing the old, creates the new. He forms LIFE with his co-founders, and fixes the concerns he expressed in his letter to Doug DeVos.

The critics claim Orrin Woodward is a misleader, however, how do you explain that when Orrin left Quixtar over 40,000 people gave up their checks from Quixtar and followed Orrin and the Team into the unknown? Maybe the 40,000 recognized the same problems and chose to follow a leader with the character and courage to fix them. I believe that is what you will find after reading this post.

Lawsuits, negative internet traffic, rumors…what is one to believe? When you begin to hear the whole story it is easy to see Orrin Woodward is taking so much heat because someone finally had the guts to blow the whistle on the problems with the A/Q business model. No one likes to be exposed and be caught doing something wrong.  Sadly, most people instead of owning up and changing, choose to finger point, blame and attack. Once the whole story is on the table it is easy to see, most of the negative is just “Amway Drones” still not willing to take responsiblity, face the facts and go away quietly. Instead they ramble on with gossip, lies, and attacks on people who truly are out trying to make a difference.

Finding the truth can only happen in one of two ways, get to know Orrin personally or look at all the facts objectively. I have been able to do both, but I realize many people reading this or other articles may not have had the chance to meet Orrin on a personal level so lets look at the facts.

A hero deliberately and courageously overcomes obstacles for the benefit of others without regard to personal consequences. Conquered obstacles are the only qualifying credentials of heroes and a measure of one’s true leadership.

-Modeling Future Heroes, Inc.

After reading this article I believe you will see, in a day and age without heroes, this quote best describes what Orrin Woodward has done with the last 18 years of his life. While researching some history I came across a letter written by Orrin Woodward and delivered to Doug Devos, one of the owners of Amway/Quixtar.

What is interesting is Orrin gave this letter to Doug in 2005, nearly three years before the final showdown with Quixtar resulting in Quixtars’ private arbitration process. Talk about courage and conviction.   Would you hand a letter to a billionaire business owner of the company you represent knowing that if he did not like what you said it could damage your long term relationships?  Sadly, because Orrin would not surrender on the principles involved, it eventually resulted in Quixtar and Orrin’s team parting ways in 2007. This resulted in the arbitration process that many judges have deemed unconscionable.

What happened over the next five years will shock you! Orrin’s letter to Doug DeVos made an impact; a letter that started a journey to protect a community; a letter that one man had the courage to write; a letter that stirred up so much criticism of Orrin, now five years later has come full circle and is vindicated by a recent settlement from a lawsuit against the Amway/Quixtar company.  In fact the lawsuit settlement vindicates Orrin on nearly every issue he fought for over the last five years. Furthermore, being a man of purpose, Orrin and the seven other business founders launched a company called LIFE that addresses and fixes almost all of the problems spelled out in the letter to Doug DeVos.

I want to walk you through this letter step by step and explain what unfolded, not based on rumors, biased opinions, entrenched beliefs or corporatism, instead, however, lets examine the true story of a man who risked everything; reputation, finances, popularity, his business and much more to protect what truly matters – his purpose, character and his commitments to his community!

Doug,

I would like to thank you for taking the time out of your busy schedule to meet with various board members on the Monday of the board week. I have always admired the DeVos and VanAndel families. Your families have exemplified the Godly foundation that is sorely lacking in our country and business culture today. To be given the privilege of sharing open and honest communication on how we can improve the Quixtar opportunity was an honor that I do not take lightly. Randy Bancino did an excellent job of presenting the main roadblocks holding Quixtar back from truly thriving in today’s business environment. I feel, after the transparent communication offered by the family leaders, it is important that the Board members share transparently any ideas we have to help transform our business.

At this point in Orrin’s career he was one of the top distributors in Quixtar and invited onto the IBOA board to help represent all of the IBOs (Independent Business Owners) in the company. As a matter of fact, Orrin was routinely recognized as having the fastest growing group in the whole English speaking community.  I remember attending a conference with Team around this time, as I was fairly new to this profession and still trying to figure out if this was something I would pursue. The Team’s major leadership conference was in Green Bay, WI and the executives from Quixtar sent over a video for the crowd to watch. The video edified Orrin and the Team, celebrating Team as one of the fastest growing communities in Quixtar. The video communicated Quixtar’s leadership and supported Orrin’s practices 100%. Is anyone shocked that Quixtar stopped supporting Orrin after his letter to Doug DeVos?  Whistleblowers never seem to have a long career path in the company they expose. I will return to this point later; however, isn’t it interesting how the story changed? Before the letter to Doug DeVos, Orrin was celebrated for the very practices that later they would claim where “bad” practices.

Can you say whistleblower? Orrin’s letter initiated several years of behind the scenes conflict focused on fixing Quixtar’s ailing business model. This letter reveals that Orrin was not a greedy business owner trying to leave Amway/Quixtar to start a company; rather, it reveals a man of courage trying to right a known wrong. Once a person reads this letter and understands that Orrin was a whistleblower on the failing North American business model, it becomes clear why the “Amway Drones” began a smear campaign in 2007, attempting to discredit the message by shooting at the messenger. Back to Orrin’s letter:

My Deepest Motivation

One of my favorite theologians and statesmen of history is a man named Abraham Kyper. Mr. Kyper was a strong Dutch minister that taught that God was working out His sovereign plan through culture. He taught that Christians were called to redeem culture through their Godly example and business ethics. Mr. Kyper did a series of talks at Princeton in 1898 known as the Stone Lectures which I strongly recommend to anyone concerned about the current state of our culture. Abraham Kyper said, “When principles that run against your deepest convictions begin to win the day, then battle is your calling, and peace has become sin; you must at the price of dearest peace, lay your convictions bare before friend and enemy with all the fire of your faith.” As Randy was presenting the slides, my mind kept drifting to how this vehicle is my main opportunity to influence culture and make a difference. I was led to Christ, as a direct result of my involvement in the business, through the ministry of Billy Zeoli and Bob Dickie. My world view was formed through reading the Christian classics and asking what was truly important in life. Edward Gibbon, in his magnum opus Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire, stated the five attributes that marked Rome at its end:

1. Mounting love of show and luxury (affluence)

2. Widening gap between rich and poor

3. Obsession with sex

4. Freakishness in art masquerading as originality

5. Increased desire to live off the state.

The parallel between the decline of the Roman culture and the cultural decline of today is self-evident. Many of the IBO leaders feel their communities are a platform which can be used to stem the tide and reverse this decline. I am proud of the system created to educate our IBO’s and feel that our system is vital in the ongoing culture war. The goals that I have for my personal life have more to do with influencing culture than just simply making more money. I know that those who make money, if they use it for the glory of God can have great influence in the culture in which they live, But the driving passion of my life is to influence our nation and to help turn our culture back to the God of the Bible. Making money is just one way of many for me to have influence and leverage in the culture in which I live. Our stated objective of the Team training system is to “Lead people to the truth.”

In Orrin’s book Resolved: 13 Resolutions for LIFE the first resolution is Purpose. Back in 2005, when this letter was first penned, Orrin had a very clear purpose for his life and how this business could achieve it.  How many people in your life could so clearly define their purpose?

Orrin was not the only one to see there was a problem.  Randy Bantino, Quixtar’s sales director, explained all of the problems as well.  However, Orrin was the only one more concerned with purpose than money, which gave him the courage to take a stand.

“If you do not stand for something, you will fall for anything.”

This also fits into the 2nd resolution in Orrin’s book on Character. Character is not only knowing what is right, but being willing to do what is right!

While reading this letter it becomes obvious that Orrin not only writes books about character and purpose, but he also lives what he teaches, that takes courage.

To sin by silence when they should protest makes cowards of men. – Abraham Lincoln

Let us continue through the letter.  In the next section, Orrin begins to use his award winning benchmarking skills to lay out the problems facing the business.

The Importance of the “First Circle”

My ability to influence culture and lead people to truth depends directly upon our ability to help the “first circle” (network IBO) work. The first circle must be able to buy good quality products at below market price and then turnaround and retail these products to develop a profitable business. If the first circle does not find a good value in the products then we should expect a high attrition rate, which reduces our ability to influence and change culture.

All business’s need to offer competitive prices if they plan on staying in business, yet Randy’s data represented the exact opposite. Most people joining the Amway/Quixtar business model realized that they could not afford to buy the products let alone sell the products to legitimate customers! Again, Orrin Woodward could have sat back, making money off of this flawed business. Instead, after three year with intense effort, working on the inside to get things right; he realized Quixtar was not going to change. It was only at this point, realizing he could not leave because of Quixtars rules and he could not stay because of his principles, Orrin was forced to blow the whistle on Quixtar’s business model.  Back to Orrin’s letter:

Mr. Gerber states: “Ray Kroc began to look at his business as the product, and at the franchisee as his first, last, and most important customer. For the franchisee wasn’t interested in hamburgers, or French-fries or milkshakes; he was interested in the business. Driven by a desire to buy a business, the franchisee only wanted to know one thing: ‘Does it work?’ Ray Kroc’s main concern then became how to make certain his business would work better than any other.”

When people no longer feel the business proposition works due to overpriced products and little ability to sell those products at retail price, they become discouraged and eventually quit. My goal to influence people is severely hampered if the first circle will not stay in the business long enough to gain respect for the leadership team and fall in love with learning and growing. In my ten-plus years in the business, I can count on one hand the number of people who have continued to buy products after leaving the business. Many of these people are still close friends of our family, but they refuse to buy products because they say they are overpriced. Therefore, we have a situation where we lose our ability to influence culture, Quixtar loses out on massive sales potential, and the new IBO loses out on the opportunity to grow a new business.

Clearly Orrin understands the necessity of a viable business model as the first step to helping people succeed. Orrin’s point is that it takes reasonably priced products in order to build a viable business model. Without properly priced products the business model becomes personal consumption only, making it hard for people to become profitable.  The good news is in LIFE, Orrin fixed the value based proposition which has lead to over 20% customer base already.  Orrin continues:

The Current Value Proposition Prevents Sales

Since 1994, I have consistently been in the living rooms of this country representing this business plan to people, an average of 25 times per month. The number one objective I deal with night in and night out is the price of the products. I have repeatedly had people conduct price comparisons on identical products, and we lose every time. I have arrived at the point where I am hesitant to display the catalogs until after they have signed up into the business. (Why should the IBO’s have to hide the product catalogs in order to register people?) After the new IBO is registered, the next toughest task is to get them to order products. We have had to resort to holding special meetings (150 PV parties monthly) just for people who generate volume. Without the PV parties, our leaders feel volume would drop an estimated 50%. Randy stated that 8% of the IBO’s do over 40% of the volume. This means that 8%, the ones that are receiving bonus checks, are doing a large part of the volume. 

Notice in this paragraph, that Orrin and the Team were criticized for not promoting products early enough. The Team focused on building depth to help people climb the bonus chart quickly, so that the products were less over-priced. The Team believed they had to work around Quixtar’s broken business model, if new people stood a chance of winning. Back to the letter:

If you take away signup volume, making this statistic even more extreme, we will find that a majority of the IBO’s are doing almost no volume. Why won’t they even buy products from their own business? The answer is that they cannot reconcile in their own mind the buying of overpriced products. Furthermore, if it doesn’t make sense to buy the products at the wholesale price, what chance do we have to sell products at retail? This difficult situation would disappear if we had an authentic value proposition where the first circle sold products at retail and prospered financially.

Author John Love, in his book McDonald’s, Behind the Arches, teaches how Ray Kroc’s thinking was different than other franchise operators: “By comparison, everything in Kroc’s franchising plan was designed to encourage the success of his franchisees first, and on that McDonald’s itself would prosper. Kroc instinctively knew that making an easy killing at the expense of his franchisees would not produce anything that would last. McDonald’s was in business to satisfy the retail consumer, but as a veteran salesman, Kroc knew he was also in business to serve his franchisees and build loyalty with them. They were his customers too, and if they failed, he failed.”

The Current Value Proposition Prohibits Growth

Randy Bancino’s main point of his presentation was that most IBO’s (90%) are not making money, and that a better retail business would generate more profit for the first circle. I agree wholeheartedly, but we need products that are reasonable value propositions at retail in order to sell them. 70% of business owners in other networks make money because they have products capable of retailing at retail price. Without a proper pricing strategy, we will constantly register people and cycle them through the business as they realize the poor value proposition. Randy stated that we were growing at 1/3 the rate of the networking industry as a whole. Combining this with the fact that we are registering people at five times the market share means we are losing people at 15 times the attrition rate in order to grow 5/15 or 1/3 the rate of other networks. Can we really continue to cycle through 15 times the number of people that other networks cycle through, and all that to end up growing more slowly? To provide an example, think of a typical bottle of spring water. If the target cost is $1.00, then we have to have the retail price set at $1.00 or less for a comparable product if we expect retail sales. We can no longer expect the market to bear a wholesale cost of $1.25 for the water and just encourage people to sign up others to generate a discount in order to drive the cost of water back to $1.00, (after you factor in your monthly bonus), let alone the retail price being $1.50, in which no sane person would buy a product from you for $1.50 that they can buy elsewhere for $1.00.

Quoting again from John Love’s book about McDonald’s; “The essence of Kroc’s unique but amazingly simple franchising philosophy was that a franchising company should not live off the sweat of its franchisees, but should succeed by helping its franchisees succeed.” I feel we have all agreed there needs to be more retailing in this business, but without an even somewhat realistic target cost, it will not happen. It is morally wrong for me to sell products to people, who believe in me, in a value proposition that is not to their benefit. When would it ever be right to offer a product through our network that is not sellable by IBO’s to customers at the retail price?

This is a crucial point. Because of the poor pricing and over all bad business model, distributors had to sponsor 15 times faster just to grow at the industry average.  What business would be ok with 15 times the attrition rate? No wonder Orrin was so persistent in bringing these concerns to Quixtar.  Why continue to build a business when the company executives refuse to fix the business model?  Essentially, what the company wanted Orrin to do is churn thought 1000s of people in order to maintain their corporate profits.  Knowing Orrin, this is clearly something he refused to do. Either the business model must be fixed or Orrin must leave. One or the other.

 The Current Value Proposition Protects an Uncompetitive Margin

The last major point is the operating margins discussed in the meeting. On one of the slides was a chart that stated the average operating margins for Alticor products was 17%. This shocked me, since I was in the process of reading Don Soderquist’s new book, The Wal-Mart Way, where he states that Wal-Mart’s operating margin was 3%. I can understand why we are not competitive at the retail price if we continue to expect margins of almost 6 times the world’s benchmark company! I am all for the Alticor companies making a great return, as long as the value proposition to the first circle is in line. If not, then this is morally wrong and must be fixed, or I am misrepresenting the truth when I show the plan.

 

The Current Value Proposition Makes Constant Achievement Almost Impossible

The most shocking piece of data is the number of people who have achieved a Founders Emerald level or above since the founding of Quixtar. The number of Non-Multi-Cultural’s (NMC’s) who have achieved Founders Emerald or above, who started in the business after Quixtar began in 1999 is estimated to be between 7 & 10 people, with only one achieving Founders Diamond level. Approximately 700,000 NMC’s have had more than 5 years to achieve Founders Emerald and approximately 1 out of 100,000 have achieved it. Alticor states its goal is to be the “best business opportunity in the world”, but the data for the NMC’s does not back up this claim. To state these statistics differently; if you were an NMC and started the business in 1999 or 2000, you had a .001% chance of achieving a Founders Emerald level or higher after 5+ years. Further, according to Quixtar, the average Founders Emerald only makes $80,000.00 per year (less than twice the median income in America, and below what those with professional degrees will earn after less than 5 years in their profession). Who would or should be excited about an opportunity like this.

Referring again to Gerber; “It is literally impossible to produce a consistent result in a business that depends on extraordinary people. No business can do it for long. And no extraordinary business tries to! Every extraordinary business knows that when you intentionally build your business around the skills of ordinary people, you will be forced to ask the difficult questions about how to produce a result without the extraordinary ones. You’ll be forced to find a system that leverages your ordinary people to the point where they can produce extraordinary results over and over again.”

Those of us involved with Quixtar must build a business where any hard working American can have a business opportunity that works! As I studied the information and trends, I realized it was not the negative lies on the internet that were killing us, but the negative truths on the internet that were killing us.

The critics would like to say Orrin ignores criticism, but he clearly stated back in 2005 that he was learning from the critics who had legitimate concerns. Eric Blomdahl posted an informative article on the topic of how to deal with criticism both just and unjust. Eric also dispels and explains many of the lies bantered about by the “Amway Drones.”  Back to Orrin:

 

The Value Proposition Can Be Changed From an Obstacle to an Opportunity

I am not a negative person. And I am not easily discouraged. But I am concerned by the disappointing data that was presented at the IBOA board meeting. I believe it is imperative that we all come together to make some corrections to improve this business beyond the problems that we currently face. Leaders solve problems and I believe we have successfully identified the problems and now just need the courage of our convictions to implement successful solutions. I believe everything should be on the table. If you told me my bonuses will have to be reduced in order to meet target costs, then I am prepared to discuss this option. For me, this is beyond a business discussion and has become a moral discussion. This is because I have leveraged my relationships and credibility with those on my team in order to generate product volume. I have tens of thousands of people who are counting on me to do right, and I must maintain their trust and personal integrity. We are all ultimately accountable to God for our actions and pleasing him should be our first objective.

I am so proud to be in business with Orrin Woodward for his courage to stand on principle.  While many people talk the talk Orrin Woodward walks the walk. The “Amway Drones” accuse Orrin of being only concerned about money; however, as far back as 2005, he volunteered to take a pay cut to fix the business model. What leader that is only concerned about money would do that? Clearly Orrin is more concerned with helping new people win then padding his own pocketbook.

When Orrin chose to confront the powers-that-be, and try to fix the problems, he did so knowing it would jeopardize his respected position at the company. Instead of making millions while other struggled, Orrin risked bankruptcy and spent tens of millions of dollars in order to stand on his convictions. Orrin did not enter this conflict with the intention of starting a new company, or gaining more wealth; rather, he did it because principles he holds dear were at stake; freedom and justice.

I was with him one weekend during probably the hardest part of this fight when he said to me, “If Laurie and I have to sell everything and move back into a trailer, that is what we will do to make this right.”

Does that sound like a money-hungry greedy person, or a person who is willing to sell everything except his principles?  Orrin continues:

The Destiny of Our Business

We live in challenging times and it will require great leadership and courage to get the job done. I believe you and your father were called for a time such as this, just as Esther was of old. I am willing to help in any way you deem fit and appreciate the opportunity to express my feelings and thoughts in a transparent way. I promise if you do your part to fix the product pricing and the opportunity for the “first circle,” then I will do my part and, God willing, will put over 1 million people into our community proudly driving traffic to your website for product purchases. We can be the best business opportunity out there and we can win the culture war in the process of achieving our business goals.

I believe in this business with all my heart. I am grateful to you and your family for providing this opportunity that allows me and so many thousands of others to achieve financial freedom and to use our talents, wealth, and gifts to influence the culture in which we live. Doug, it will take courage to make the right choices to correct the things that need fixing in this business. I am confident that if those choices are made this business will become the greatest success story in our lifetime. I know that the suggestions that I am making will work. If we do not make the decision to fix the problems that are hindering us from going from good to great, then it is my feeling that some other corporation will eventually see what needs to be done and will do it. This is our opportunity to make this business the greatest business opportunity in the country. I want to forge ahead with you to a fantastic future. I want to give genuine help to those who are struggling financially. And finally, I want to see this business be used of God to help bring back to our country the Godly principles that it was founded upon. This is a goal worth striving for and a life worth living. Sir Edmund Burke once said, “The only way for evil to prosper is for good men to do nothing.”

Thank you for your time in reading this letter. I would love to take you to lunch sometime and give you copies of the books from which I have quoted. If I can serve the Quixtar team in any way, please feel free to call or email me.

God Bless,

Orrin Woodward

In hindsight, this letter is powerful! Imagine if they would have listened to the advice from Orrin Woodward and the rest of the leaders who were calling for change. Most likely, Amway’s 100 million dollar Pokorny legal settlement  (The judge ordered a 5% price reduction; sound familiar?) would have been avoided, if they would have only listened to Orrin back in 2005.

Let me sum up this Amway/Quixtar/Orrin Woodward conflict in a few talking points:

1) In 2005 Orrin Woodward risked his hard-earned position at Amway, by writing a letter directly to billionaire owner Doug DeVos to point out major problems within the Amway/Quixtar business model.

2) Orrin Woodward, after nearly threes years attempting to drive change within the company, departs from Quixtar in disgust. Orrin and his leaders spend tens of millions of dollars to get free from Amway’s tentacles.

3) Earlier this year, in a California court, Amway/Quixtar settles a potential billion dollar lawsuit by surrendering over a 100 million dollars in settlement money. Not surprisingly, many of the disputed issues in this case were the same ones that Orrin pointed out to Doug DeVos back in 2005.

4) Undaunted, Orrin, instead of criticizing the old, creates the new. He forms LIFE with his co-founders, and fixes the concerns he expressed in his letter to Doug DeVos.

Is Orrin a money-hungry person or principled-centered person?  You decide.  As for the Hawkins family we are with Orrin and Laurie Woodward, going to 1 million people and beyond.

Any good idea goes through three stages. First it is laughed at. Second, it is violently opposed. And third, it is finally accepted as self evident. People who live by their convictions will make fast friend and fearful enemies. As the old saying goes… If you do not want to be criticized, say nothing, do nothing and become nothing.

It’s your life.  Is Orrin a hero or just out for selfish success? You decide.

God bless,

Dan Hawkins

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Dont Quit ... while your behind

This is a great artical from my friend Chris Brady's Blog. 

Worth the read...

As Orrin Woodward says - Start Starting and Quit Quiting

Dont-quit

Achieving something great means going where you've never gone before. Even though much of the ground is therefore unknown to you, there is one main feature of your journey of which you should be aware in advance: the tempation to quit. 

I would sate very confidently that anyone who has achieved greatness in any endeavor has been mightily tempted by the desire to quit. In fact, one of the key differences between champions and the rest is that somehow, in some way, the champion found a way to continue moving forward when the others gave in to the impulse to quit.

Hanging on is a big part of moving on. 

Quitting doesn't just happen, though. Instead, it follows a progression of destructive thoughts that culminate in the murder of the dream. The key to not quitting is to recognize these poisonous thoughts early, identify them for what they are, and counteract them with productive ones - quickly. Just as a weed is easiest to pluck when it's only a sprout, so too are thoughts of quitting. Pull them from the garden of your thinking early.

Here is a list of thoughts that can lead to quitting:

1. I no longer believe I can do this!

2. My main partners in the project quit.

3. I'm out of resources.

4. I gave it my best shot.

5. I'm not as far as I thought I would be by this time.

6. I've invested so much and still have so little to show for it.

7. This is harder than I thought.

8. Someone (or several someones) ridiculed me.

9. Someone I'm working with hurt my feelings.

10. I listened to the critics of what I do and now I'm not so sure.

Know this: these thoughts are not unique to you. I think nearly every high achiever experiences at least six of these (if not more) on his or her path to success. Identify them early; be slow to buy into them, and like a heart patient popping nitroglycerin, swallow a bit of the following to stave off being disheartened.

1. Go all the way back to your purpose, and remember what fired your enthusiasm in the first place. Has your core purpose changed? Likely, no.

2. Look at things from a completely different perspective. Instead of looking back over the ground traveled with discouragement, look at it for clues as to what could be done better.

3. Get with a mentor or expert in your field who has successfully survived similar bouts of doubt. What did they do to get through the tough times? How can you see things the way they did? Look for inspiration that will resonate deep inside of you.

4. Take stock of what HAS been accomplished, instead of just seeing what hasn't. Have there been some intangibles? Have you become a better person as a result of the struggle so far? Have you made friends and connections you wouldn't have made otherwise? Have you learned something?

5. Analyze your expectations. Often, people become discouraged because they began a pursuit without a mature understanding of success. Most particular endeavors aren't harder than expected; rather, success itself is harder than expected. Realize that succeeding at anything would likely provide moments of discouragement to you. Our society glorifies mediocrity so much that we are shocked how tough excellence can seem.

6. Realize that success is often located just beyond the most doubtful moment. Many great accomplishments were achieved immediately after a crisis of confidence. Hang on and see if just a little bit more effort might be enough!

7. Dramatize your own story to give yourself staying power. This one may seem silly, but it's got real power. Use images, visualizations, music, and drama to build your quest into a romantic pursuit. Picture yourself as the director and lead actor in your own movie, with a crowd of eager onlookers. What will you do next? Will you play the hero? Will you thrill the crowd? 

8. Keep the goal but modify the plans. Often all that's needed is a little tweaking. This is where someone with experience (see #3 above) can help. What adjustments can be made? What slight modifications can be put into your approach? Being just a little off track can add up to a huge difference in the destination reached at the end. So make little course corrections along the way often and intelligently.

9. Read, rest, and restore yourself. (For more on this whole concept, see my book A Month of Italy: Rediscovering the Art of Vacation). You should never make a decision about anything of any importance (including quitting) when you are tired, stressed, or sick. Read something that speaks deeply to you, restore your physical and mental strength, and see if things don't look better once you're refreshed. They almost always do.

10. Realize that ultimately, it's your life. You will be held entirely accountable for it. The committee of "they," the critics, the naysayers, the dream-stealers, the know-it-alls, the back-stabbers, the false friends, and the outright mean people out there will be nowhere to be found, whether you quit or win. These types of people are shockingly scarce when it comes to finding help once you've hit rock bottom, or for applause when you've ascended the victory podium. At both places they are as scarce as fur coats on fish. Realize this. You don't even have time to ignore them. Think of it this way: if you quit because of what someone like that does or says, you get to become like them. Perish the thought.

As my friend and often co-author Orrin Woodward likes to repeat, "When the going gets tough, the tough get going."

May this article be a nitro pill for your heartache, and may you get back out there and finish the journey!

 

 

KEEP CHARGING...

D

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5 - Rhino Conversation KILLERS.....

 



 

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Improve your conversation by avoiding these traps:

 

And as suddenly as it began, it's over.

There you were, in the middle of a great Rhino conversation, when suddenly the wind died in your sails, leaving you stranded out in a large, unwelcoming and unforgiving desert. What happened ??

Not every conversation will work, but most of them can....

Sometimes Rhinos find yourself stuck with other animals you just don't connect with, that's life. When it happens, move on. Conversely, if your conversation is boring, predictable, meandering and dead on arrival, and suddenly you realize you're rather be at home arranging your sock drawer than continuing the torture, there's a good chance you are at least partially to blame.

Here are five conversation killers that can really destroy a conversation. We're all guilty of them from time to time because they're very easy to do.  So, be aware of the information in this list, and watch that you don't swim into a riptide and get sucked into the quicksand.

Conversation Killer #1: The Blabbermouth
Conversation is a two way street and monopolizing the entire thing is a bad idea, no matter how interesting you might think you are. If you do 85-95% of the talking, that means the other person is not an active participant. They are listening, nodding occasionally, and trying not to look like their falling asleep while they plot their escape from your lecture.

Keep it 50/50. If you find yourself doing all the talking, try and get the other person to open up a little more by asking questions that require a thoughtful answer, not things that can be answered with ‘yes' or ‘no.' When the other person finishes talking, pause for a beat before speaking to give it some air, this is encouraging because it shows you are listening and thinking about what was said, not waiting until they shut up so you can say your part.

Conversation Killer #2: The Choke
Talking to much is disastrous to a conversation. Not talking is just as serious, and can quickly lead to another roadblock.

Unless somebody is asking you a math problem, one word answers should be avoided. Here are a few scenarios:

Good:
"Hey John, whats two plus two?"

"Five?" (I'm not very good with numbers.)

Bad:
"Hey John, what did you do yesterday?"

"Nuthin."

Good:
"Hey John, what did you do yesterday?"

"I had a really funny thing happen yesterday morning, would you like to hear about it?"

Once again, keep it 50/50, your responses should add to and further the conversation.

Conversation Killer #3 : The Apathetic
It's impossible to talk to somebody who looks bored, whose eyes are scanning the room while you speak, who's fiddling around with their watch and generally not paying any attention to what you're saying.

Don't be this person!

Follow these simple guidelines and you'll never be the awful partner nobody wants to converse with.

Don't be distracted.

This is simple. Don't be the aforementioned person. Show interest, make eye contact, and most importantly, listen! If you find yourself speaking to someone who suddenly becomes detached, get their attention back. Stop speaking for a moment and it will snap them back to reality. Perhaps the history of the Tesla coil isn't as fascinating to them as you'd hoped, time for a new topic.

Be interested.

Listen and remark on what is being said to you. Ask questions, share similar experiences, but above all show interest in your conversation partner.

Be interesting.

Find topics of mutual interest, by listening and asking questions. Sometimes your stories will go over great, and sometimes you will bore the pants off your partner.

All you need to do is find a common ground, or at least a point of interest, and expand from there.

Conversation Killer #4: The Uncomfortable.
You can be having the greatest conversation of your life with the most interesting person you've ever met, but if you're standing two inches away with bad breath, you're going to wind up talking to yourself. Be aware of your body language.

Don't invade their personal space. Some cultures differ on this point, but try and stand no closer to a person that you would if you were shaking hands.

Don't stare. There's a fine line between making eye contact and staring somebody down, and done incorrectly you will only succeed in making them feel uncomfortable.

Don't look away either. Show your interested by making eye contact, but too little makes you appear distracted. A good rule of thumb is make eye contact around 50% of the time while speaking, and 70% while listening.

Halitosis. What can I say? Find a way to deal with it.

Hello Mr. Mumbles. Pace your speech and enunciate. Don't shout, whisper, speed talk or talk in slow motion unless the situation calls for it.

Hello Mr. Wiggles. Tapping your feet, swaying back and forth, pacing up and down, patting your elbows, jiggling change in your pockets, these are all distractions. Relax.

Conversation Killer #5: The Jerk.
While it's good to discuss and debate matters, it's usually a mistake to get mad and call someone an idiot. Try and avoid acting confrontational and negative. It's fine to disagree with someone, but criticizing, ridiculing and belittling them will lead nowhere.

 

 

Keep Charging....

D

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